Thursday, February 3, 2011

Faith Barista JAM- Unwrapping Love

What I Wished Someone Told Me About Dating

That's the subject for this week's jam.
(courtesy of google images)
Wow! I honestly don't know what to write for this one. 
To be honest I don't feel like I have any advice to give. 
I haven't done a lot of dating myself. 
In fact aside from a short time in my late teens and early twenties, plus the one guy I dated last year and the 3 dates I had with New Guy, I have no dating history. 
If I were going to ask for something to be told to me, that's hard. 
There's so much I wish people would tell.
Personally I feel like I'm SO bad at dating. 
So if I could  have someone tell me something it would probably be some good tips.
Things that girls -good christian girls- should and shouldn't do on dates.

Things to tell to the other  person and not to tell. 

As I struggle with my health that's often a question in my mind.  (Not to mention that bad path I went down last year).
Should I say something about it?  After all right now it is a big part of who I am.  How I behave even, as my hormones spike up and down and I feel like a nut case.  Even though I know that I'm not. 
Maybe tips like how guys think, or even how they don't think would be nice. 
But I think if I were to give a tip on dating there is one main one-
If something seems off, then you're probably right. 
Take things with the New Guy- I could tell he wasn't feeling it even if he didn't want to admit it.

And trust what your heart is telling you.  There were times I had to talk myself up for going out with him. 
In most cases if you're doing that he's not the right guy.  Or maybe you're not ready.  And if that's the case that's ok too. 
I know that right now I'm not really ready to be dating anyone.  After things with the Ex ending not long before I started seeing the New Guy, I needed time to wrap my head around what was going on.  And my heart still needed time to heal.  I do kinda think that the New Guy was good for me.  I wonder if I would have ended up going back to the Ex yet again if it hadn't been for him. 
Kinda makes me want to thank the New Guy.
And it definitely makes me hopeful, that there is someone out there for me. 
And that God will bring him when the time is right.
Of course, come February 14th I may not feel so optimistic. 


Kelli said...

I enjoyed reading this! "How I behave even, as my hormones spike up and down and I feel like a nut case." Girl we all feel a little psycho sometimes...and dating definately makes a girl this way too! My borther is still dating and figuring out that its better to alone than with the wrong one...God's best is way better than the best we could create ourselves!:)

Leanna said...

Kelli- i'm glad you enjoyed it. :o)
It really does seem crazy sometimes. With whatever is going on with my health it really does have me massivly spiking in hormone levels. Though thankfully my doc and I are going to try something new.
I imagine this is what it's like to be preggers, but with out the added benifit of a baby in the end. :o)

Sheryl said...

I found myself identifying with your words about being bad at dating. I kind of pretty much inhale violently in my stunted dating life. Trusting my gut is something I'm not good at.

Leanna said...

awww Sheryl, maybe we can switch dating advice next time one of us are dating.

Charissa Steyn said...

I loved your simple advice...and OH HOW true it is!!! Found you from Faith Barista today!

Bonnie Gray said...

Hi Leanna, wise words. Give yourself that time and space. There is no rush. ;) If the One is the One, nothing can shake the guy off. I identify with what you're feeling. God's got you covered, girl. He's got your back. I hope your health situation will improve. Thanks for sharing so transparently.. and keeping the lights on for me.