Wednesday, April 13, 2011


Ok, so I'm a tad frustrated. 

No, not with the Negativity fast.  That seems to be going pretty well I think.
Though I do notice I tend to fall more into the negative pattern when I'm driving. 
Like today at lunch when I was behind a non-brilliant driver who didn't really seem to know what they were doing. 
Other than that though I feel like I am improving.

However I am frustrated with someone. 
I'll call her a friend. 
Even though it has been ages since we've done anything together.
Ages since we've spoken to on another.
Ages since we fit the bill of what I consider friends. 

Which made me curious as to what the actual definition of friends is. 

Per Mr. Webster:

Definition of FRIEND

1a : one attached to another by affection or esteem b : acquaintance

2a : one that is not hostile b : one that is of the same nation, party, or group

3: one that favors or promotes something (as a charity)

4: a favored companion

5capitalized : a member of a Christian sect that stresses Inner Light, rejects sacraments and an ordained ministry, and opposes war —called also Quaker

Which really wasn't what I expected when I looked it up. 
But oh well, I guess the closest thing to what I was thinking is the first one.
I personally think this sounds more like an acquaintance to me. 
Since to me a friend is someone who knows you on a more personal level.
Someone who wants to know what's going on in your life, to know how you are, what you are up to, and all those "little" things that make up who you are. 
One who KNOWS you not just KNOWS OF you.
Hopefully that makes sense.

So I have this "friend" who I've known pretty much my whole life.  She's a family friend so we did a lot of things together when we were younger, she has 2 sisters as well just like me and the 6 of us would get together on a regular basis.

But I haven't seen, talked or heard from her in years now.  So I really have no idea what's going on in her life aside from what I hear from others or via Facebook. 
And aside from the 2 showers I've seen her at in the last few months.  That's right showers, one for her sister who married in October and one for My Sister who is marrying in 2 weeks. 

Yet, since I've seen her I've gotten text messages, facebook messages, event invites for FUNDRAISERS for something she is doing.  I'm assuming it is for youth stuff but honestly I don't know, because I haven't gotten an email really explaining all of that either. 
But it does kinda bother me that she's asking for money.  That's it.  No real explanation of what it is or what's going on. 
It frustrates me.  Why?  Because it feels like she is interested in my wallet not in me. 

Even if that's not the real case.

So what do you consider to be a friend.


Alyssa Rose said...

I agree with you on your definition on a friend. "One who KNOWS you not just KNOWS OF you."

I can see how you are frustrated, too! I think I would be as well if I were in your shoes. Have you asked God about the situation? Really asked Him?

Leanna said...

Sadly no I didn't. :o( I should have.
But I emailed her a private FB message after she posted to my page asking for work info to ask for something from them.

I was courtious (even sent it to my sister to proof) and unemotional explaining how it made me feel. And letting her know there were know hard feelings while also letting her know that my intent is to reconnect with her, I'm sure it's a good cause, one worth getting behind but I want to know what's going on in her life.
I took blame in our disconnect as well since I've not emailed or called much either.

Hopefully we will get back to the point where we KNOW one another.

Thanks Alyssa!

Alyssa Rose said...

I will pray God's will in the relationship and that all will turn out well! :0)

Leanna said...

Thank you SO much Alyssa.
I've been praying since your comment about it. :o)

Laura Darling said...

This must be so hard. I'm sorry you're in the situation! Hoping it gets better soon!!