tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7783576128517664598.post1246845152276682574..comments2023-06-14T04:55:53.349-05:00Comments on Single Revelations: so I wrote...Leannahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14606542447325265407noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7783576128517664598.post-53250616140325320622011-02-07T12:37:43.443-06:002011-02-07T12:37:43.443-06:00Patti-
Thank you for your honest comment.
I thin...Patti-<br />Thank you for your honest comment. <br />I think you're right. It would probably be all about me if I were to send the letter. <br />And there is no way to know at this point how it would be recieved even if the intent behind it is one thing. <br />So with this one at least at this point I plan to hold off on send it.<br />Thanks again!!Leannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606542447325265407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7783576128517664598.post-41564047040137623142011-02-05T09:53:54.019-06:002011-02-05T09:53:54.019-06:00I share the letter-writing thing...I feel better g...I share the letter-writing thing...I feel better getting things out there. What I've learned, though, is that for me those letters really are about ME and not them - it's about me needing to say things that I wish I had said or say things that would bring me closure. <br /><br />You didn't ask for opinions, but if you were to ask, my suggestion (from lesson learned the hard way) would be to just keep the letter, not send it. What you see as a well-intentioned thank you that comes with no obligation on his part can come off to him as awkward and unnecessary and puts him in a position of "Do I respond? Am I a jerk if I don't?" I did it once and it made future interactions really uncomfortable, and when we finally made it to the other side (several years later), he told me that he thought getting that letter was just odd and it made him think I was trying to get him back and it made me seem weak. <br /><br />Obviously every experience is different, but we single girls have to stick together and help each other out, so there's my experience. Take from it what you will :-)Pattinoreply@blogger.com